I have no idea how I came across this article today :/ …synchronicity?!
I had to print it out (I’m saving my eyesight for the beginning of the school semester), it is not a short article but I get the feeling that it’ll be an interesting read… here a few quotes from the intro
Is it possible that adolescence is most difficult—and sometimes a crisis—not for teenagers as much as for the adults who raise them? That adolescence has a bigger impact on adults than it does on kids?
In 1994, Steinberg* published Crossing Paths, one of the few extensive accounts of how parents weather the transition of their firstborns into puberty, based on a longitudinal study he conducted of more than 200 families. Forty percent of his sample suffered a decline in mental health once their first child entered adolescence. Respondents reported feelings of rejection and low self-worth; a decline in their sex lives; increases in physical symptoms of distress. It may be tempting to dismiss these findings as by-products of midlife rather than the presence of teenagers in the house. But Steinberg’s results don’t seem to suggest it. “We were much better able to predict what an adult was going through psychologically,” he writes, “by looking at his or her child’s development than by knowing the adult’s age.”
*Laurence Steinberg, a psychologist at Temple University and one of the country’s foremost authorities on puberty
Interesting, right? the article is divided into the following sections:
and, it’s excerpted from All Joy and No Fun: The Paradox of Modern Parenthood, by Jennifer Senior, to be published on January 28 by Ecco, an imprint of HarperCollins Publishers.
click on the link for the complete text
This’ll make for a good topic with the hubby :)
xo lovely people